The beauty of parenting is perfection is not attainable. The ugly part is that the imperfections can be irreparable. Having mostly grown children with a stay at home wife/mother we have been able to fill the gaps. Our kids are well rounded and goal oriented, some goals are not what we wish for, but goals nonetheless. Our children did not get a free ride while not lacking. Point is; do the best you can to mitigate the damage. Use the tools you have, develop the tools you don’t have, you are a parent. Parenting is about nurturing your relationship, as spouses or otherwise, filling the parental gaps that all of us have. The key to us is knowing our faults and shortcomings, working together to fill the gaps.